Commit 24db47e0 tried to improve support for delayed ACK upon connect
but it was incomplete, because checks with the proxy protocol would
always enable polling for data receive and there was no way of
distinguishing data polling and delayed ack.
So we add a distinct delack flag to the connect() function so that
the caller decides whether or not to use a delayed ack regardless
of pending data (eg: when send-proxy is in use). Doing so covers all
combinations of { (check with data), (sendproxy), (smart-connect) }.
